The original plan was to write this as a Facebook post and just tag Husby in it. However, I realized that it may become too long for Facebook and thus would have almost no reads. I am hoping in this format I can share on Facebook and then have friends and family message me. Of course any polite, non judgmental public reader response would be most appreciated. With that being said, here goes.
I was born with MRKH it’s a genetical condition that in the simplest explanation means I was born with out a uterus. I have ovaries so IVF and GS are options that Husby and I are working toward.
There is of course another option. One that Husby and I feel called upon to take its option as well. This option of course being adoption. There are some many children in need of homes and loving families in this world. We want to be one of those families. However, the road to adoption is vet confusing and we’re not sure we’re to turn. The internet is actually a hindrance here. There are so many scam sites.
That is the reason for this post. We asking for help. We know how to go about adopting from the state, but what other adoption avenues are there? We’re not saying we don’t want a child from our state agency, we’re saying we don’t trust our state department of child welfare. And we don’t feel comfortable dealing with them. So what are our other options? How do we even start the process? How do home inspections work? How do they handle it if you have in-door out-door large breed dogs?
Can anyone help to point us in the right direction?
momma said:
If you aren’t comfortable adopting from foster care, you can start by contacting private agencies. You may be able to work with local or national agencies, depending on the laws in your state. I would not recommend working with an adoption facilitator (unless you live in CA). The agency should be able to give you information on completing a home study (including home inspections). Pets are usually no problem but you will need to provide proof of up-to-date shots.
mrsrocketscientist said:
The pets are definitely up to date on their shots. I havent found any other local agencies than the state foster care system.
Erin said:
Congratulations on considering this important possibility!! We adopted through foster care and it has been amazing. If there is anything I can help you with please let me know!
mrsrocketscientist said:
Thats so amazing Erin! We’ve always wanted to foster, but here the only option is the state. And while I want to help the children, I just can’t trust our Child Wellfare. There have been so many major mistakes made. And they treat foster parents like crimminals, but the bioparents who are the crimminals are treated like they’ve done nothing wrong.
connieann said:
I also have MRKH, and we’re looking into adoption. Have you gone to any of the information sessions at your local agencies? We went to a few and they made the process seem a lot clearer. Hope your journey is going well. God bless you guys!
mrsrocketscientist said:
There aren’t any agencies in our state. Well an other than the state itself. I looked on the Resolve website. The nearest one is in Kansas City, MO. A friend suggested talking to our pastor. The Methodist Church has a home for children. Thank for the idea to go to information sessions. I didn’t even know agencies held them. We were just going to try to contact a family court lawyer. Good luck on your adoption journey. God bless. And on another note, are you on any of the MRKH support groups on Facebook? Mothers with MRKH is great. They’ve been posting IVF and adoption resources.
connieann said:
We live in Maryland, but we’re adopting from another state due to the low number of adoptions in MD, along with the 30 day revocation period. Most of the adoptive parents I’ve met do it that way, so I’ve been reading up on the laws in each state. Right now it looks like we might be going to Florida. Also, a number online groups have webinar info sessions so if you’re interested in learning more about adoption you can do it that way too! I do belong to the Mothers with MRKH group, but I don’t find it super helpful because there aren’t too many people adopting in there, and we are not interested in IVF. The adoption groups that are closed tend to be the most helpful for me. 🙂